I’ve been thinking about these things for a while now. All of these anti-gay activists act holier-than-thou with all their moralizing about gays and lesbians. They fight to have us not be able to get married because God made ‘Adam and Eve.’ They fight to make sure that we do not get legal protections. But what they don’t fight against are divorcees. They do not fight to prevent people from getting a divorce. God made Adam and Eve to stay together until death–not get a divorce and travel on to numerous husbands and wives. The truth is that God hates divorce, so let’s look at some biblical passages regarding divorce and adultery. My point here is that all of these anti-gay activists are being pretty choosy in what they want to believe. Will these same people who want to bar gays and lesbians from having equal rights bar those who are divorced or have committed adultery? Let’s see Peter LaBarbera create a website specifically to fight against those who have been divorced or committed adultery. After all, it appears that divorce and adultery is much worse to God than homosexuality. Even Jesus himself discusses it.
Deut. 22:22 If a man is caught lying with the wife of another man, both of them shall die, the man who lay with the woman as well as the woman. So you shall purge the evil from Israel.
As you can read, this is pretty similar to the punishments found in Leviticus for homosexuality–but you do not find people like Peter LaBarbera, or Stacy Harp, or Focus on the Family crying out to everyone that adulterers should not be able to marry, or have equal rights. No–the last time I checked it was perfectly legal for people who are divorced to get married again (and in some cases, again and again), to have children, to safely stay in their place of employment, to safely stay in their housing and to not worry whether someone will kick them out of a cafe or not. There is no push to change the constitution to keep divorcees from remarrying. There is no push at the state level to keep people married. And before some of you go ape, I am not comparing gays and lesbians with adulterers–I am using scripture to show that they pick and choose whom they want to harass and whom they want to help deny equal rights.
(Deut 23:2 Those born of an illicit union shall not be admitted to the assembly of the LORD. Even to the tenth generation, none of their descendants shall be admitted to the assembly of the LORD.)
[Now a lot could be written about this one, so all of you who were born out of wedlock or even if you are related to someone from 10 generations ago (!) you cannot be part of this religion. As far as I know, no one asks at the church door about your genealogy back to your great-great-great-great-great-great-great-great parents on both sides. But I’ll save this for another day. But do you see people calling on those people to get out of the church, or to deny them basic rights, even though God has commanded it?]
Now here is a complicated case where a twice-divorced woman cannot remarry her first husband since it is ‘abhorrent to the Lord’:
Deut. 24:1 Suppose a man enters into marriage with a woman, but she does not please him because he finds something objectionable about her, and so he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house; she then leaves his house24:2 and goes off to become another man’s wife.24:3 Then suppose the second man dislikes her, writes her a bill of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house (or the second man who married her dies);24:4 her first husband, who sent her away, is not permitted to take her again to be his wife after she has been defiled; for that would be abhorrent to the LORD, and you shall not bring guilt on the land that the LORD your God is giving you as a possession.
I have to admit that this must be a rare case (see however Jer. 3:1 below), but then again, I have heard of people who get divorced and eventually remarry. Let’s hope the woman wasn’t married to someone else before she got back with her first husband. Now I wouldn’t mind seeing the church post some rules about this and ban services to those people like this (I am specifically thinking of the church that offered to hold funeral services for a man until they found out he was gay. I believe that a church has the right to do what it wants, but if it is going to deny funeral services to a dead gay man, then they need to deny them to dead, straight divorcees. Otherwise they are hypocrites.).
Jer. 3:1 If a man divorces his wife and she goes from him and becomes another man’s wife, will he return to her? Would not such a land be greatly polluted? You have played the whore with many lovers; and would you return to me? says the LORD.3:2 Look up to the bare heights, and see! Where have you not been lain with? By the waysides you have sat waiting for lovers, like a nomad in the wilderness. You have polluted the land with your whoring and wickedness.3:3 Therefore the showers have been withheld, and the spring rain has not come; yet you have the forehead of a whore, you refuse to be ashamed.
Again, why don’t we see Christian groups calling out these twice-divorced people who want to marry their first spouse? Here is another, more strongly worded sentence about what God thinks about divorce:
Mal. 2:16 For I hate divorce, says the LORD, the God of Israel, and covering one’s garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless.
And here is the strongest condemnation of divorce found in the Bible. But notice that these anti-gay groups do not demand that divorced people not be able to remarry. Churches will marry whoever wants to pay them. They do not withhold their services (such as funerals and marriages) to people who have been divorced. Nope–only to people who are gay and lesbian, even though God hates divorce.
Even Christ had something to say about divorce. This is what he said in Mark (the oldest Gospel):
Mark 10:2 Some Pharisees came, and to test him they asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?"10:3 He answered them, "What did Moses command you?"10:4 They said, "Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her."10:5 But Jesus said to them, "Because of your hardness of heart he wrote this commandment for you.10:6 But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’10:7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,10:8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."10:10 Then in the house the disciples asked him again about this matter.10:11 He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her;10:12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."
And this is what he had to say in Matt:
Matt. 5:31 "It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’5:32 But I say to you that anyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of unchastity, causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Matt. 19:3 Some Pharisees came to him, and to test him they asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any cause?"19:4 He answered, "Have you not read that the one who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’19:5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."19:7 They said to him, "Why then did Moses command us to give a certificate of dismissal and to divorce her?" 19:8 He said to them, "It was because you were so hard-hearted that Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.19:9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another commits adultery."
And in Luke:
16:18 "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and whoever marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
Paul, in 1 Cor. gives his own opinion (and makes it very clear that this is his opinion and not the opinion of God):
7:10 To the married I give this command–not I but the Lord–that the wife should not separate from her husband7:11 (but if she does separate, let her remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife.
From these many examples it is clear that divorce took place. But you can also see that God hated divorce. Jesus said that divorce was only permitted when there was unchastity. Those who get divorced for ANY OTHER REASON commit adultery (and we all know what the punishment for adultery was in the Old Testament–see Deut. 22:22 above). Therefore if churches are going to deny services to those who they think are immoral, then they need to withhold services for all that are declared immoral. That means people who have been divorced for any other reason than unchastity. Otherwise they are just hypocrites and they are picking and choosing who they want to work with instead of listening to their entire religious text (and I am waiting for someone to tell me that those passages in the Old Testament are no longer relevant–but then you better be prepared to explain away the words of Christ).